Question by : Wedding Parties?
I’m doing all the planning for my wedding myself. While making the guest list on theknot.com, I noticed that you can select a person and pick all of the parties that they’re invited to.
Engagement Party
Shower
Bachelor
Bachelorette
Rehearsal Dinner
Sunday Brunch
I hadn’t even thought about any of that. What’s a must-do and what’s not? Sunday Brunch? What the…? Engagement Party? People have those?
Can somebody break it all down for me and help? Haha.
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Answer by j
most people do the bachelorette party and bashelor party. Then they have a rehearsal dinner. All the other stuff dont worry about. But the best man is suppose to plan the bachelor party and the maid of honor is suppose to do the bachelorette party. Your main thing is the wedding itself and the rehearsal dinner.
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You do not have to have all of these parties! Especially if you are getting married soon they take up to much time and money…plus think about your guest they have to buy you a gift for each one then the wedding gift will not be so good. Not that that matters so much but save them some money.
Engagement party and sunday brunch are not a must do!
Showers are a great way to get the aunts grandmas and friends together
Bachelor/Bachelorette is not a must but I really wish I would have had a bachelorette party since my husband had a bachelor party…I still hear about it.
Rehearsal dinner is a great way to say thank you to all that have helped you bridal party to pastor. This is also the people you are usually closest to wedding party family etc.
I also used the knot as a great source it really can help.
If you need decoration ideas and are doing that yourself go to your local craft store to think of ideas…and it will be much more inexpensive than hiring someone to do it.
Also if you see expensive things that you like remember you can always make it or find it cheaper…from cakes to flowers.
Best Wishes to you Both!
Engament Party:
The purpose of the E.P. is for both families to be acquainted. Inmediate family members and a FEW close friends are invited at the E.P. The couple annouces the engagement, show off the ring, announce the wedding date and the bridal party. No gifts are expected to be recived. A toast and appetizers are served. This is not a necesary or obligatory affair.
Bridal shower: Your MIL, BMs or a frienr coworker organize this gathering. This is mostly a woman party. Normally, there are “themes” for a bridal shower (kitchen, limgerie, bathroom etc). and small, practical, personal, sentimental, even handmade gifts are given to the bride. There is NO registry for the shower. Bride’s to be open the presents in front of the guests. Normally, games are played during the party. Drinks and appetizers are served. Youc an have one or more of those, but not the same people should be invited. You do not throw a Bridal shower for yourself, someone offers to host one for you. Mid- Afternoon affair.
Bachelor and bachelorette party. The groom/bridal party host and pay for those, They should be done at least a week BEFORE the wedding (not the night before the wedding). Night affair, normally, alcoholic drinks are served and is done outside a residence.
Rehearsal dinner. This is done the night before the wedding,. The complete bridal party (FOB< MOB, FOG, MOG, BM, MOH, GM, Bm;s, Ring bearer, flower girls) go to the church and they rehearse the entrance of the bridal party .After the fact, the GROOM’s family pay or the rehearsal dinner, which is normally at a restauramt and they pay for the meals and drinks of the entire wedding party, (to include ring bearer and flower girl parents). A groom,s cake is sometimes offered. The groom and the bride offer gifts to the bridal party in appretiation for their participation on the wedding. This affair is not necesary if you don;t have a chucrh reception or don’t really have a big wedding entourage.
Sunday brunch. After the wedding and honey moon. This is optional. Honestly, I’ve never seen one done.
I hope this helps
Congrats and good luck
Good luck
I just got married so here it is:
First, it is all optional. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. It is up to you and your fiancee only to decode what is a must.
Engagement party – I skipped that. Go to the bar and have drinks with your best friends. That’s enough, I think.
Shower – I had that. that’s when you maid of honor 9or anyone else who is female) organizes a mid-day weekend luncheon type of a thing where you eat small plates and cookies and drink tea.
You also play silly games and get gifts from everyone. Only women attend.
Bachelor and bachelorette party – this I recommend. He goes with his male friend and you go with your girlfriends. You can go as close to a local bar, os as far as Las Vegas, but the point is to get to drink and party. People often go to strip clubs.
rehearsal dinner – his mother should pay for this. It is a dinner before the wedding day where you first practice the wedding, then you all go and eat. Can be fun.
Sunday brunch – no idea what this is but it sounds boring
None if it is a MUST do. I can’t remember the last engagement party I’ve been to, to be honest with you.
The engagement party is to celebrate…well, the engagement. Generally hosted by parents of the bride, however the grooms parents may host one too, but it’s considered polite to allow the brides family to host first.
Bridal showers are planned usually by the maid/matron of honor and bridesmaids. The shower is specifically to “shower” the bride with gifts.
Bachelor and Bachelorette parties are given for the bride and groom to “celebrate” their last remaining day as a single person. Most that I’ve seen involve large amounts of alcohol.
The rehearsal dinner is generally hosted by the groom’s family, and is held after the wedding rehearsal for members of the wedding party, and any close family who has travelled from out of town.
Sunday brunch can be all sorts of things…since most weddings are on Saturday nights, someone (and it can be anyone) will host the remaining people in town for brunch, sometimes the bride and groom come, sometimes they don’t. I’ve even been to one where they opened gifts there.
Hope this all helped.
Well, I was in a friend’s wedding who had all of the above.
The Engagment Party was thrown for her by some friends where she lives (Chicago) and was just a really small get-together. Most people do not have one.
The Bridal Shower is done the majority of the time unless the bride does not want one. It is usually hosted by the maid of honor.
The Bachelor and Bachelorette Parties are done most of the time, but anymore they are more laid back, just a chance for all the guys (Bachelor Party) or girls (Bachelorette Party) to get together and talk, eat, laugh, drink, go to an even that’s fun for you like sports or music or crafts or something.
The Rehearsal Dinner would follow your wedding rehearsal if you choose to have it. It is normally hosted by the groom’s parents and held at a restaurant.
The Sunday Brunch is nice for destination weddings where everyone is still in town with nothing to do the next morning before they head home. If you’re having your wedding close to where you and everyone else lives, this is not normally done.
Have fun planning!
Sunday brunch has become a popular “extra” party to prolong the wedding celebration. Basically, someone (usually the grooms family) will host a brunch the day after the wedding. It’s mostly for the out of town guests who are staying at the hotel. Kind of a final send off. My future in-laws are hosting a brunch for us at the hotel where a lot of people are staying at for the wedding. It’s certainly not a required party, bit a nice way to say thank you to everyone who spent so much on traveling to the wedding.
You dont have to have any of those parties. You can have one or all if you would like, but they are not an obligation. The engagement party would be your own thing. She Bridal shower and bachelor/bachelorette parties are usually dont by the maid of honor/matron of honor or your siblings or other family members. In my culture we dont acustom the rehearsal dinner (we barely have time to have a quick dinner the day before a wedding, much less a rehearsal dinner). And I guess we do have sunday brunch, but its nothing formal. Usually the next day we all get together to eat whatever was left over from the weddng (if any) or just get together andmake breakfast ourselfs. Its not a special thing though, we just get together.