Heres the deal. I grew up in Oregon and half of my family still lives there. My finace’s whole family is in ohio. We decided we wanted to get married at my family’s beach house in oregon, since is beautiful and a free venue. We have already started making plans. We had originally planned to just have our wedding shower and engagement party in Ohio to make sure we could include his extended family. Last night I asked him what his family thought about our location and he said some were hoping that we’d switch the location to ohio… I’m crushed.
I dont want his family to have to miss out and I’m terrified they will think I’m some sort of bridezilla. Once I came to my senses and relized that was completetly irrational I started planning a 2nd celebration out here in ohio for his family.
My questions are how to go about this? Invite everyone to both celebrations? Send out the invites on the same day? Spend eqaul amounts of the budget on each? Any thoughts? Please…
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Definitely invite both families to both events. You don’t want any harsh feelings with either family. If they can’t make it to one they can certainly try for the other. Have your wedding ceremony in Oregon with your reception. It would be nice (if you haven’t thought of doing this already) if the ceremony and events were video recorded. Plan a reception only for your Ohio family, this is just to celebrate your new marriage. Your invitations should state something like A reception celebrating the marriage of XXX and XXX. You can make your celebration as elaborate or as casual as you feel comfortable with. I would try to keep the budget of the second event close to the first. It’s a really nice idea to have your wedding ceremony that was video taped played at the Ohio reception. That way family that couldn’t attend feel they were a part of your special day someway. Depending on the date of your Ohio event send out the invitations at the same time.
why not have like a reception in oregon and then after the honeymoon sometime have a reception in ohio. this is your day and his day. Invite everyone to both, Have the wedding and reception in oregon, then just a reception in ohio. Anyone that comes to the wedding and reception, you shouldnt invite to ohio, Spend what you can. I would not do anything formal for the one in ohio but do exactly what you always dreamed for the oregon. make sure maybe to have a smaller replica cake for the one in ohio. do what you want to do.
I think you should definitely have the ceremony where you want it. That’s the most important part. I also agree that you should have it recorded to be watched at the Ohio reception. I would say make sure to work this in the budget no matter what. Also, inviting both sides to everything is probably just the safest bet! At least close family and friends from either side. Obviously you wouldn’t invite your childhood neighbors to Ohio but then again, maybe you were close to them.
As far as the invites, I personally would send a whole packet including both invitations to whoever gets them with return envelopes for both events. This way, no one can say they got one but not the other. I would say find a theme and stick with it through both events that way both parties feel like the same thing.
Good luck and congratulations! Let us know what you decide to do!
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Very cute ideas for all of those wedding and engagement photos. Cristy and I didn't invest much time planning or arranging any particular photographs and thankfully our photographer was able to capture some nice images my chance. But we did plan for 1 prop: a little wood framed slate chalkboard. We wrote Just Married across the chalkboard and posed for a picture right after the wedding was finished. The best photo with this prop came via one of our wedding guests.
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very well done!
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